[A collaboration post – all thoughts are my own.]
In my early years as a content writer, I thought I would never write this personal post. However, life often surprises us. And how are you coping with loss?
Early in November, my grandmother passed away. Because I live in the city and my grandparents reside in the village, I don’t always get to see my grandma every month. I only visit when there is a traditional ceremony. I initially thought my grandmother’s unexpected fainting and hospitalization were just minor illnesses brought on by advancing age when I first heard the news in the evening.
Then, at dawn, my mother informed me that my grandmother had passed away and that my father, who lived in the village, was sobbing bitterly over the unexpected loss of his mother. We went straight back to our hometown that morning, and the religious ceremony took more than a week. I haven’t been active this week because of that. The memories and grief are still fresh.
I understand that grief is a fundamental human emotion and a natural part of life. We have to go through this process because we have loved and lost someone or something that had meaning. That is why I have decided to share my experience of coping with loss in my life.
Strategies For Coping With Loss
We’ve all had to deal with a pandemic on a worldwide scale. Many of us have not only tragically lost loved ones and been separated from them, but we have also had to deal with anxiety about the future, job loss, and financial loss.
However, I believe that the more you understand loss, the better informed and prepared you will be when it occurs. Although the way I dealt with my grief may not be the best for you, reading about how I overcame the grief of loss and went on to live a full life may give you the courage to carry on, one day at a time.
I want to share these lessons with you in the hope of motivating you to live life to the fullest, pursue your goals, put an emphasis on developing your resilience, live in the present moment, and value the gifts of life, love, and laughter.
Live your life to the fullest
I’ve wanted to manage my money better for a long time, but I kept putting it off. The loss of my grandma caused me to reevaluate my values in life, and as I started to heal, I began to feel optimistic about the future. Without the help of his selfish brother, my father was required to pay enormous sums of money for the religious ceremony.
My grandma left a surprisingly large debt that needs to be paid as well. I want to help my father at least once per month because I don’t want him to have to struggle with everything on his own. I also create a budget plan slowly and progressively, after which I set myself savings goals that take me to 2023 when I hope to have 20K in savings, 15K in retirement savings, and 15K in an emergency fund.
Healing takes time
On some days, you’ll want to curl up in bed with the covers pulled over your head and withdraw from the outside world. Do it, you should indeed.
However, do not take this moment as an excuse to isolate yourself from society completely. Grieving can be experienced in any way—there is no right or wrong way. Go with it; it’s a dynamic process and different for everyone.
Power of choice – I choose to be hopeful
The unfortunate events that occur in my life are beyond my control. However, by using my power of choice, I can control how I respond to these difficult situations. In short, the way I choose to live my life defines how I live mine.
When we use our power of choice, we are actively looking for answers to the problems we are facing. We get empowered to see how we might improve by using our power of choice. Keeping optimism and a positive attitude toward life is important for moving forward. Hope for a better future is something we all need.
Remember the precious gifts in life
As I struggled to cope with my grandma’s death, my friends and relatives served as my pillars of support. Without my family and friends, I would not have survived or healed; therefore, I gained a very important lesson about the value of family and friends.
My parents wanted me to work in the government, so in recent months I began to have second thoughts about pursuing a career as a writer and translator. However, it is not simple to work for the government because you must pass a number of tough exams.
While many people are still having trouble finding jobs during the current pandemic, I am thankful that both before and during it, I consistently received a translation project each month along with reliable additional income from my blog. I’m extremely grateful for what I have at the moment!
Find your purpose in life
Life is a big journey. Your life has meaning when you realize your purpose in it. The quest for your purpose shouldn’t overwhelm you. Plan out a strategy, execute it, and don’t give up. Set realistic goals that you can achieve, and move forward slowly over time.
No matter how small or how big your success is, remember to celebrate it. Celebrate it and tell those you love about your accomplishments.
Keep your head up and embrace its unpredictability
The road of life is strange and amazing, filled with beautiful and painful experiences. Running away from the challenges life throws at us is not the way to deal with them. The only place you can go when you run is nowhere!
Wherever you go, life’s difficulties, pains, and challenges will follow you. For a short time, but only for a short time, it is OK to fall to pieces. Grief is tough, but it will teach you a lot about yourself and make you a better person. Give yourself time for coping with loss. Become more resilient and strong so that you can handle the pain and difficulties that life presents you with.
How do you cope with loss? Is there any way to get better quickly? Let me know below.